What a Year Can Do
One year ago today Alan moved back to Calgary to steal my heart. Once again, he succeeded. I’m convinced, yet again, that there is nothing this man can’t do. Or won’t do.In grade 10, ten years ago now, he promised to love me forever. He still does… despite everything that’s happened during the past ten years (though I won't get into details). So, just to convince you all that I am, without a doubt, the luckiest woman in the world let me share a little bit about the man who makes me able to claim such a thing.
Alan moved to San Diego in July of 2001, just two short months after graduating from DeVry. I visited him within a month and fell in love with San Diego. I’m sure part of that was loving the person I was visiting in San Diego, but none the less, it was all love.
During Alan’s years in San Diego I suffered through bad relationship after bad relationship and through most of it, Alan claimed he still loved me, despite his urging to “not wait” for him. He didn’t know when he’d come back to Canada permanently. However, he did wait for me. Crazy kid, I know, but he did.
Then, last November he came back to Calgary to “get me”. He moved 3000 miles with a trailer dragging behind his 2001 Chevy Cavalier (Christine) and prepared himself for a real winter after enjoying year-round motorcycle weather back in San Diego. He found himself a new job, albeit not a great one, and tried to settle back into life in Calgary. By January, he was done with the job. He hated it. Hated going to work, hated thinking about work, and hated talking about work. So, we agreed he should quit and pursue Qualcomm again. By March he as officially a Qualcomm employee again, but was able to work in Calgary until May. Then he left me, again. With one agreement – if I didn’t get to the States, he’d come home to Calgary. He’d decided we were a team and what we do, we to together. Now that, folks, is commitment.
During his time in San Diego, Alan flew home to Calgary just about every other weekend to spend time with me, and family, despite the emotional rollercoaster it put him on. Between May and September, I flew down once. He truly went beyond the call of duty.
By September I was on my way south to be with him. Through the whole trip south he managed to keep a positive outlook on the trip and wouldn’t let me give in to my worries about leaving everything behind. It takes a strong man to keep a woman positive when she wants to wallow in her own self pity.
Now we’ve been here for a month and a half together. I guess it’s been two full months since we left Calgary together. He’s been through a lot – there are a lot of emotional highs and lows with moving away from home, especially to a new country where things are a lot different than I ever expected. He is constantly surprising me with little things: flowers, back rubs, and best of all, support. It’s awesome to love your best friend. AWESOME!
So, that’s about it. I am the luckiest girl ever. Some of you may dispute it, and feel free. I’m sure your partners are “the best” too, but in my opinion, I’m the luckiest and no one will ever convince me otherwise.
However, I should tell you what a year will do, since that’s what this post is all about. A year will give you time to become a better person (even if you need a psychiatrists help). A year will give you time to find a sense of humor about yourself. A year will help you learn to love yourself. A year will help you find the courage to move 3000 miles to a semi-tropical location ;) A year will help you find the strength to give up a car you love (Moe) and, at the risk of sounding callous, buy an even better car (Fast Eddie, oh yeah!) and then drive that car all the way to California.
And a year, apparently, will let you learn to love baking. Well, I guess that only takes 3 weeks. I have started to bake for my co-workers. Banana bread, Butter Tarts, “Oh Henry Bars”, and next week, Nanaimo bars. I know you Calgarians feel ripped off; but as Brad L. puts it, when I’m “done” with San Diego, I’ll come home and bake for you too! (You didn’t think I’d be serious and sappy for the whole post did you?)
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